It had to end. The holiday state of mind, that is. City-dwellers know that feeling when giant pine trees begin to look smaller and smaller in the rear view mirror as hints of civilization slowly appear up ahead then tract homes and big box stores come into full view. You miss your high-style metropolitan ways but you realize there’s much to love about the country just as you’re leaving it.
And someone, always, is bound to get cranky.
Before you know it, your systems are buzzing, the laundry is piled high enough to blow your record, and slow cooking a la Alice that felt so right in the country means missing all kinds of important meetings.
It’s really quite something how we’ve managed to turn civilization into such a brittle and frenzied state. Always on edge. Poised to crack and crumble.
Who’s responsible for this, anyway? Our predecessors who built the first successful enterprise? Those geniuses who hold the world record in productivity? Our egos so big we cower at their presence? Our evil twin who masterminds evil deeds but never leaves fingerprints?
While some of us are ranting about who’s to blame, others are getting busy building a better version of our current collective realities.
William Arthur Ward says if you can dream it, you can become it. We’ve all seen this adage play out in our own lives. But we come to find that dreaming and wishing for oneself has its limits. Sooner or later, we’re itching to expand the dream and including others in it. After all, moving closer from dream to real is that much sweeter when shared with others. And think of all the happy celebrating that takes place when we get there!
What are your dreams and wishes for yourself and others?
I wish for a warmer civilization where nurturing, encouraging and caring for others is the norm. Our current situation is more combustible than warm. I believe we can move toward a more compassionate community as is evidenced by how we can count on an outpouring of support, time and time again, in the midst of catastrophe. We will tap into this reserve of compassion more easily as we gain more confidence in the role we play.
I wish that we’d let our big hearts overrule the big bucks. What’s all that pile of dough anyway besides being just a whole lot of pennies? Money talks, they say? Perhaps, but I myself am moved so much more when I listen to someone who speaks from the heart. And if we one day learn to power all the excess money in the world with our big hearts, do we dare imagine what happens?
I wish that we’d know the difference between urgent because I say so and urgent because humankind depends on it. We see this in the Occupy movement that Elizabeth Warren predicted would happen. We see this when big banks reverse their abominable transaction fee policies because without customers, they’re toast. We see this when women who’ve been hurt build a shelter for themselves and for others just like them so that they may heal together and draw strength from one another. People working together can make a huge positive impact. Do we want to see more of these examples, and if so, what will we do about it?
Though I love feeling the warm sun everyday in January, I wish we would all be attuned to the loud and strong message we’re getting from our surroundings, our planet, our climate. I wish I were overstating this issue, but many really smart scientists who know how to use all kinds of scientific tools have studied the facts. It’s time for us to make drastic changes about how we treat the environment. Making incremental changes may be too little too late and denial is no longer an option.
Dreaming and wishing are fine things.
But let’s not forget:
1. to thank and support those who grasp fully what’s at stake and are unafraid to lead us toward fulfillment of these dreams and wishes.
2. that these dreams and wishes are extensions of ourselves, waiting to be transformed by the work of our able hands and hearts.
Has your holiday state of mind lingered or are you fully immersed in the unfolding year?