That is where society’s self-demonization plays more of a role–in a culture where rigid notions of beauty, art, and achievement are held, it is difficult to feel up to snuff. Nearly everyone feels inadequate on some level and at the same time keeps everyone else down there with him, whether an artist, an athlete, or a stockbroker. Culturally, though, I think we are evolving. When you look back on cultural & social history, there is much more freedom of expression now–and acceptance of that expression–in nearly whatever form it takes.
]]>Wonderfully expressed and a great community building post.
]]>I think there is good and bad within us, but I agree that what does it help to always focus on the negatives? My personal flaws and weaknesses do not give me relief or reward whenever I obsess over them. It’s only when I let others see the good stuff in me, and maybe even see it for myself, that I get that much needed relief. Perhaps not even focusing on oneself for a time can be a form of relief too.
As a species, I guess it’s hard not to demonise our imperfections. After all, it could be argued that we in some ways have been the most wasteful, selfish and destructive animals on the planet. Our shared history would seem to bare that out. If we evolve into something better, it can only be through individuals… and enough individuals so that the numbers eventually stack up on one another to make an actual difference.
So, yeah, I agree. Enough with the demonising. That never helped anyone. But we also have a great responsibility to be transparent about our failings so that we’re not kidding ourselves about what we are. We ARE flawed, we CAN do better, but we need to do better by not pointing fingers at one another and ourselves… and stop judging for a change. I find a big hug works wonders whereas a clenched fist never will.