Comments on: What Is and What Is Supposed to Be

By: Belinda Munoz

Belinda Munoz — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 02:38:59 +0000

Sara, she sounds like a total sweetheart. Give her a squeeze for me ; )

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By: Belinda Munoz

Belinda Munoz — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 02:37:55 +0000

Thanks, Wilma. I’m glad you wrote about that mind shift that takes place from feeling frustrated because things aren’t how they’re supposed to be to “what choice do I have now”. I really think that’s critical to happiness. xo

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By: Belinda Munoz

Belinda Munoz — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 02:15:25 +0000

Thanks for the compliment, Preeti

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By: Wilma Ham

Wilma Ham — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:53:07 +0000

I finally am understanding that this is a total useless and dangerous thought; “This is not how it’s supposed to be.”
Who am I to know how things are to be? There are so many other forces at work in my life, I have NO idea ever and giving that up has freed me up and I am no longer wasting my time on things that are not my business.
I have to admit that this took me a long time to understand but now at least I know where I can direct my thoughts to where they bear more fruit. ‘What choice do I have here’, ‘what is my intent right now’ and that is getting me through life in a very wonderful and far more productive way. xox Wilma.

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By: Preeti @ Heart and Mind

Preeti @ Heart and Mind — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:17:34 +0000

Belinda,

What I like about your posts is something unique and different subject that one may not have thought of it and this particular way. Lot of things we think or follow based on our perception and our perception is always based on our past experiences.

I am glad to read this and be open minded for something I can not seen or experienced.

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By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 19:28:47 +0000

Belinda,

After reading this post and your questions, all I could think about is my cat. I know that’s strange, but she really does accept “what is” and she lives simply, finding her comfort whenever she needs it.

If she gets shut in a cabinet, she just curls up and goes to sleep. No long howls of “let me out” will be heard; she waits until she’s found. She takes frequent naps, but will occasionally let out the wild cat and run through the house, sliding on rugs as she goes. She’s almost always happy.

I often watch her and think I could learn quite a few things from her, like enjoying life as it is.

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By: Eva @ EvaEvolving

Eva @ EvaEvolving — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 19:28:26 +0000

“Do we give learning enough credit for its richness, texture and flavor? Or is getting it right more important than the process?” These are the questions that really captured my attention. Because, unfortunately, we place so much value on success, on doing things right. We forget about the incredibly important process of learning, of trial and error. And I know – in my heart – that it’s better to try something even if you don’t succeed than to not try at all. But it’s hard to follow through on that belief all the time.

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By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 08:26:12 +0000

Hi Belinda,

I think it is sometimes difficult too accept things as they are – but the difference between what they are and how they should be can really impact on our happiness. We need to look at the simple things and appreciate them just as they are – exactly as you say without trying to make it more complicated. I think we often want more, just generally more of everything, and this leads us to strive to change things that are perfect as they are.

Great post,
Kate

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By: Sandra Hendricks

Sandra Hendricks — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 01:18:17 +0000

Hi Belinda,

It can take many years to see through the complexities in life and finally decide that life is simple. After all the labeling and comparing is past, then our judgment relaxes. This is when we can really live and observe the world and the people around us, without analyzing everything. This is how it seems to me anyhow. Thank you for the thought provoking post.

Regards,
Sandra

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By: Meg

Meg — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:30:29 +0000

Expectations get in the way of seeing things as they really are. Expectations arise from desire, in the Buddhist sense. We want this, want that, want things to be this, to be that. Stepping back from desire lets us see things as they are, all their good, all their bad. As a result life itself will be fuller and more satisfying. Or will it?

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