Comments on: A Little Leeway

By: Madeleine Kolb

Madeleine Kolb — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 00:43:46 +0000

1. Yes, I need a little leeway at times.
2. I hold close my relationships with my BF and my daughter.
3. To sustain me, I depend on communication–writing, reading, speaking, and conversation; cooking and sharing healthful meals with my BF; being outdoors; music; and humor. The same things also define me to an extent.
4. Learning complex new things–mental or physical–challenges me.
5. I worry about health, but not obsessively. I’m doing everything I can to be healthy, but one never knows what may come.

By: Christine LaRocque

Christine LaRocque — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 23:52:21 +0000

“Wrapped in this routine,” oh yes how comforting routine is. How I depend on it! And the nights that I miss out on it often set me a bit off ceveourse. Like tonight for example. I suspect we are all alike in this in some way, even those who claim no routine I would argue have just a different form of routine.

I too struggle with change, and crave it at the same time. It’s a constant push and pull in my life that keeps just slightly off balance.

By: Nadia Ballas-Ruta ~ Happy Lotus Lifestyles

Nadia Ballas-Ruta ~ Happy Lotus Lifestyles — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 16:01:15 +0000

Hey Belinda,

I learned a long time ago that change is a wonderful thing. Life is meant to evolve and we are meant to grow. Stagnation is death.

People come into our lives for reasons and when those reasons have been met, they leave and other people come into our lives. Some people stay with us until our time is up.

I think the only person who can really nurture us as we want to be nurtured is ourselves. I think when we look to others to make us feel better, we open a can of worms. I have found that when I look to myself for comfort, people mirror that back to me. We teach others have to treat us.

The company we keep is really important. I surround myself with people who are positive and see beauty in life. I try to minimize my exposure to those who are negative and doubtful.

We are all dealing with the same issues and struggles. We are more like than we are different. And I truly think life is a beautiful journey. Love always triumphs over fear. It is just that fear seems more powerful since it is all over on the news. The world is full of good people…they just don’t make headlines.

By: Stephen

Stephen — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 14:49:37 +0000

1) Yes.
2) My family.
3) My family, and I feel scared when that changes. Although I sense something more, but difficult to unpack, spirit maybe.
4) Change and facing my fears which are many.
5) Financial security.

By: Tony Single

Tony Single — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 13:46:15 +0000

1. Always.

2. Cass for sure. My capacity to feel openly and without guile.

3. I can depend on nothing if everything is only going to up and change on me. Mayhap I can depend on God, but I question even that at times.

4. Perhaps what I don’t know defines me.

5. Everything and nothing. If you were in my brain, you’d understand.

Great read, Belinda, as always.

By: Meg - Minimalist Woman

Meg - Minimalist Woman — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 12:13:00 +0000

I don’t like change until I can’t stand it, and then I MUST have change. Once changed, I then return to not liking change. Does this make me similar to some ocean-bottom life form, rarely noticed until out of necessity it scuttles to a new pocket in the sand? And yes, I worry about everything and wish I worried about none of it. :}

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 00:11:43 +0000

I love the idea that experiences season us. Like lots of good meals in a cast iron pot. What makes me stronger, more able? Family. This week, I have found strange joy in our new early mornings. The cuddles, reading a wake up book, the shared meal.

By: Tessa

Tessa — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 21:30:44 +0000

Oh so true. We all struggle and rejoice with the same range of emotions. Meeting halfway is certainly the place to start.

By: Sara Healy

Sara Healy — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 20:34:30 +0000

Belinda — Excellent post and questions! I love what you said about change.

When reading the questions, the question that jumped at me is: What can you depend on to sustain you? How do you feel when it changes?

When I was growing up, I didn’t have a lot of nurturing people. What I did have was an inner voice (not a real voice:~), but one that constantly helped me get through tough times. I see this voice reflected in my old journals. It’s always been there to remind me of my strengths, even when I feel like I’m falling apart.

How do I feel when it changes? If my inner voice is silent for a long time, it feels like I’m a boat without a rudder…sort of drifting. On the other hand, as I’ve grown older…the voice has become much more outspoken. I think this one reason I continue to write and blog…I want to encourage others to listen to their own wise voices.

p.s. The Exception is doing a guest post at my site tomorrow, Thursday. I hope you will stop by for visit, if you can.

By: TheKitchenWitch

TheKitchenWitch — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 20:13:55 +0000

I’ve always resisted change. Miss D. thrives on it, and I think Miss M. is showing the same tendency. Be still, my beige, tethered heart.