Comments on: One Day. One Person. One Perspective Changed.

By: Belinda Munoz

Belinda Munoz — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 04:32:31 +0000

Hi Sandra, good question! I wasn’t considering a follow-up, really. If anything, I’d like to eliminate as much of it as I can. I know how it affects me when I witness it as well as when I’m the, uh, instigator. What I’d like to do is not to subject others to the “whining like a child” sort of expression that I know I’m very adept at doing. I suspect that nobody really needs it and I now know that I can get on without it.

Thanks for visiting!

By: Maggie

Maggie — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 00:56:54 +0000

Hooray for you! What a fun idea. I love challenges that try to shake me out of habits I didn’t realize I had, and I’m sure complaining has got to be one of them! It seems so normal to complain about things with others – after all, they are probably complaining to you, too. But how much more interesting would our conversations get if complaining were just off limits? Thanks for sharing your experience, Belinda – I think I might have to try this one.

By: Sara Healy

Sara Healy — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 19:29:35 +0000

Belinda — I liked what you did. It’s not easy to work through something like this and find alternative routes to issues, like complaining. I also liked what you learned. It makes me want to give this a go. I don’t see as many people as you do because I work at home, but I still find many ways to complain. At least the dog and the cat will be much happier…well, maybe even the computer:~) Still, I think this a good idea and I’m going to try it.

Regarding your question, the one thing I do is occasionally have what I call “go gently” days. Because I tend to be a person who gets annoyed and impatient easily, these are days when I really work at being more peaceful with people and situations. I have tokeep myself in a gentle, more accepting mood.

Some days, I’m better at it than others, but I always feel so good when I see how others respond when I’m doing this right.

I’ll come back after I try a non complaint day and tell you about it. Thanks for this post:~)

By: The Exception

The Exception — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 18:55:17 +0000

I love this. My daughter has a tendancy to complain so I have, at times, offered her this challenge – just one day without complaining. i have also requested that a complaint be bollowed by ideas as to how to resolve the issue. I think I will take on this challenge myself – a new perspective is always appreciated.

My daughter’s father complained endlessly about traffic, work, people, lack of money though the lack didn’t exist. I found the conversations draining. it felt as if the happiness was being sucked from me – a vampire living on my optimism. It is amazing what the complaining energy does to us and those around us.

By: Keith

Keith — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 01:55:03 +0000

Hello Belinda,

You have guts! I have done this experiment and it is a real eye opener. As Tess mentioned in her comment, we don’t realize how much we complain and doing what you did is an excellent tool for finding out!

What a change it makes though, right? It revolutionized my day when I did it. It also had a wonderfully positive effect on others! The experience has stayed with me as it permanently altered the way I interact with people.

Wonderful job and kudos to you!!

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 01:44:10 +0000

Hi Belinda,
What a great day you had. And your final 2 sentences were icing on the cake. As a speaker I’ve invited audiences to to experiment with not complaining for 3 weeks. And each time they catch themselves they need to begin their three weeks over again. They moan. The point is to get them aware of how much they complain and the second point is they’ll notice they complain about the same thing over and over year after year.

By: Tony Single

Tony Single — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 01:01:42 +0000

Belinda, this challenge clearly isn’t for the faint of heart, so kudos to you for meeting it head on! I think I am going to have to take a leaf from your book and do this kind of thing more often. Yup, I do actively set out not to complain occasionally, with varying levels of success. Imagine how effective I would be if I actively did this more often…

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By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 22:32:47 +0000

What an extraordinarily insightful post on an even more extraordinary day. Complaints. We all have them. I’m actually shocked by my own amount of small complaints that drop throughout the day and land on anyone who’s near–friend or mild acquaintance or sister, it does not seem to matter.

This is a fantastic challenge. Not one I think I could take on right this moment, but one that will be kept in the back of my mind and will help keep me more conscious of my everyday dwellings and arguments. My negative internal dialogue.

!!!

By: Sandra Hendricks

Sandra Hendricks — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 21:56:55 +0000

What a fun idea Belinda, a day of awareness. Will you experiment with it another day, to check your progression?