Comments on: So, How Are You Doing?

By: Patty - Why Not Start Now?

Patty - Why Not Start Now? — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 04:13:06 +0000

Hey Belinda – In my work, I actually get to ask people “How are you doing?” and they actually tell me how they’re doing. All of it. And I love it. I know it’s not practical for day to day life, but I wish there was more room for deeper exploration when we ask or are asked that question. Wow, what would the world be like if that happened? Maybe we’d all feel heard. And about doubt, well, I just love your tactics for staying a few inches ahead of it. Good stuff.

By: Meredith

Meredith — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 01:32:35 +0000

“I can listen to my heart’s deepest desires despite the relentless mental mutterings.”

After that sentence, I’d venture a guess that you are doing beautifully, Belinda. It’s my first stop by your blog and it’s a beauty. Nice to meet you!

By: Tony Single

Tony Single — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 02:36:44 +0000

So, how are you doing?
Better than yesterday, thank you for asking.

How do you deal with self-doubt?
I don’t really. I ought to, but I don’t. I usually wait for the doubt to pass. It’s like depression that way, in that both do eventually give way to life’s needing to be lived.

How do you keep yourself from undermining how well you’re doing?
Again, something I tend to fail at. The only defense I have is to just keep doing doing doing, and try not to compare myself to others and what they do.

By: Tess The Bold Life

Tess The Bold Life — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 00:11:11 +0000

How am I? As happy as I make up my mind to be. Thanks for asking. I was laughing at the end of your list.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 22:38:24 +0000

Hello Belinda,
Another lovely post to add to the list.
I am doing fine. I deal with self-doubt sometimes by reminding myself that I cannot control outcomes, only actions and so I need to be willing to act, accept the outcome and know that good or bad, I am learning and therefore growing so it’s all good.
Other times, I procrastinate….
I work to keep myself from undermining what I’m doing by paying attention to my thoughts and working to dump the thoughts that don’t serve me. I’m not always successful, but… it’s a process.

By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 21:57:17 +0000

What a delicious musing – and over a seemingly simple question that is always loaded, not to mention culturally charged. (I smile, thinking back to the number of times my European father-in-law asked why we Americans ask questions like “how are you” if we don’t really want an answer other than “fine thanks.”)

I loved this: the many parts of us — a chaos of characteristics fused together, at times, a clutter of contradictions – how true!

How am I today? Who’s asking? And in what context?

By: Justine

Justine — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 20:08:03 +0000

Belinda – when I first moved to this country, I was taken aback when people asked “how are you?” but didn’t so much as glance at you for an answer as they kept walking towards their destination. It took me awhile to get used people who asked but didn’t quite want to know., and I was often perplexed: then why ask? A simple “Hi” would have sufficed and felt more genuine. Acknowledge. Move on.

And when people do stop for the answer, I have to craft the response based on our relationship, the intent of the question and the time that we have for a conversation. A simple “how are you?” is not that simple, as you’ve eloquently pointed out here. You process so much in the quick second you take to answer that question, including how you really feel versus what you end up saying.

Thank you for this insightful piece. (And yes, I’m smiling at our oddly parallel post titles today).

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By: Christine LaRocque

Christine LaRocque — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 18:35:48 +0000

I would be doing so much better if I could walk away from the things that don’t matter too. Appreciated this perspective, and the call to reality. Really, all things seriously considered I’m really very well. And I LOVE to hear about you

By: Sara

Sara — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 17:11:37 +0000

Belinda,

Once again the blogosphere has done it’s magic. Today is sort of down day for me as my kid left for grad school. Yours is the second site I’ve visited and both of you had different, but similar messages for me.

I loved your list and it’s such a good reminder for me. While I might be a bit sad, it’s just one part of me. All in all, there are many reasons to feel good. I just have to see them; bring them to the forefront.

Thanks for this post:~)