Comments on: Yes Until You Say No

By: Bob Bessette

Bob Bessette — Sun, 30 Jan 2011 16:56:56 +0000

Belinda,
It is my guess that he will always want you to be close. That is the hope of a parent. It is tough letting them go but if you do the proper job of parenting as I think you are doing, he will return time after time.
I hope you are well.

Best,
Bob

By: emily wierenga

emily wierenga — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 06:31:52 +0000

oh belinda…

this touched deep. will you still be with me when i’m big?

oh, if only they could know HOW much we love them. if only. such a beautiful post.

By: Justine

Justine — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 20:04:55 +0000

I love this parenting gig but have to say, I’ve never been good about the letting go part, and I know I must someday. Oh how I dread the inevitable.

By: elk

elk — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 19:45:41 +0000

so true . so well written , i could feel the emotion. You undoubtedly are laying a good foundation for when the do leave..and they do

By: Felicitas

Felicitas — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 13:00:23 +0000

Oh, this hits so close to home for me. I have 2 teenage boys and fortunately, the bonds are still tight. With love, understanding and willingness on my part to allow them to continue growing into the beautiful young men that they are, I’m certain everything will work out wonderfully in the end.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 03:23:47 +0000

Belinda I am so impressed with your writing. It’s beautiful. They will part one day, but if you do the job right (and I’m not convinced I am), they will always come back. There is nothing that can replace a mother’s love. But there are keys to keeping it.

By: Joybird

Joybird — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 01:23:23 +0000

Poignant tug-of-war. I’m not a parent, so I have a different perspective. I am an adult who for financial reasons needs to live with her parents. And they are gracious and love having me here, but I chafe, longing for my own nest, to stretch my wings again and fly. It’s hard to balance connection and independence, no matter how old your child is.

By: Belinda

Belinda — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 00:34:28 +0000

I’ve never even gotten that and especially not while he’s building things.

By: Talon

Talon — Thu, 27 Jan 2011 23:15:16 +0000

This is so lovely – it choked me up.

The best part is, when a parent/child relationship is close and connected, it stays that way even after they are “gone” from home. That’s been my experience with my three adult children.

By: ayala

ayala — Thu, 27 Jan 2011 21:10:47 +0000

Sweet. I love this. When you have this closeness ,even though he will grow up he will always look for your company.