Truth or Dare?

by Belinda Munoz on January 21, 2010


Ugh.  I cower at the title of this post.  I’m not a truth or dare kind of gal and have very little experience with the game.  Truthfully, I’d rather put on a pair of wet socks, have sticky jam hands squeeze my cheeks, plop between a cold wall and a big sneezing man on a crowded bus, and walk many miles in a rainstorm without an umbrella while schlepping a heavy backpack filled with textbooks containing decades-old statistics.  Okay, I exaggerate.  A little.


Facts, I’m familiar with and even have a few filed away in my head.  There are certain things about our identities that are factual, irrefutable and irrevocable.  Facts are solid.  Regardless of how often the media or politicians or anybody with authority may or may not represent the facts, facts can hold their own amid invasive scrutiny.  Pierce.  Poke.  Prod.  Facts will surface.  They can be unearthed, proven and accepted beyond question.

Facts give us a sense of security.  Our address, our education, the groceries we buy, the things we do throughout the day are all facts that bring us comfort, definition, grounding.  The facts of our lives weave for us a safety net with which we’re intimate and to which we return home.  Without the facts of our personal history that tether us to the ground, we’d be floating about aimlessly like bubbles in the air, waiting to bump into something concrete.

But, while facts are truths, truths aren’t necessarily facts.

Truth, compared to facts, can be subjective.  Yes, truth can be just as stubborn and unyielding as facts.  Except when it’s squishy.  If you’ve ever been to a toddler gym, truth can be like the one imaginary purple ball in a vast pit of red, blue and green foam balls.  How do you tell a three-year old this purple ball doesn’t exist if, in his imagination, it does?

Truth, unlike facts, is complex.  Dualities abound when it comes to truths.  Truth is real yet ideal and has the power to make the ideal real.  Sometimes it feels close.  Sometimes it feels far.  Always, it’s there, standing up and out amid the sea of untruths.  We seek it among the distractions, the posers and the impostors.  Whether or not we ever find it is a lifelong journey and a personal one.  Thus, it may differ from one person to another.  If you disagree, consider the words of Anais Nin, “the personal life deeply lived always expands into truths beyond itself”, or of Andre Gide, “believe those who are seeking the truth; doubt those who find it”.  Truth, truly, can be tricky.

But despite these words, truth is also simple and can simplify the complex.  When our minds work in concert with our hearts, truth begins to serve us.  In the words of Blaise Pascal, “we know the truth, not only by the reason, but also by the heart”.  When we know and accept the truth, we begin to learn to navigate around obstructions on an illuminated path.


On the one hand, because truth, for me, can sometimes be as complex/simple and intimidating/empowering as answering the question, “Is there water in ice?”, I’d almost always opt to dare.  That is, if I were to play the game.

On the other hand, I would want to fathom a few facts and a trickle of truth before I go on daring.  Why?  Because, at times, my faith is shaky and my truth, nonexistent in the face of facts that disappoint, disturb, and disillusion.

And so I face a quagmire toe to toe.  As a game, truth or dare is a take-it-or-leave-it.  In life, truth or dare as a question won’t back down and has consequences if ignored.


While looking for the point in this post may seem as challenging as finding truth, I do have a point.  And it’s a simple one.  Truth or dare may be a game but it has its place in real life.  As we grip the steering wheel, navigating our way around truth or dare situations that pop up in life, it seems their perceived separation is best seen as a myth.  Truth, because of its power and organic nature, enables us to dare.  When we find truth, we gain the courage, the strength, the chutzpah to dare.  And by the same token, when we opt to dare, we do so armed with the truth.  Or some kind of truth that works for us; that gives us the permission to dare.  This truth hands us our very own brave gear, so that we may shift whatever needs shifting, and do whatever it is we dare to do.


Have you ever played truth or dare?  Did you enjoy it?  Does it play out in real life for you?

Because I crave wisdom from all of you, would you consider sharing your answers if I posted a truth or dare question every now and then?  I promise to make them fun.  Whaddya say?

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1 Nicki January 21, 2010 at 5:13 am

Truth or Dare? A game from my past. Yes, I have played it before but never given it the thought you have. I love that truth and fact are different, that one is concrete and one not.

This game definitely plays out in life. And, yes, post an occasional question. I would definitely play.


2 Eduard @ Ideas With A Kick January 21, 2010 at 8:09 am

Ha ha, I used to like that game a lot. Until I found out that when you chose truth, you actually, honestly had to say the truth. Who knew? 🙂


3 Sara January 21, 2010 at 9:55 am

Belinda — Oh, wow…this is one powerful post. You took me on such a journey with Truth or Dare. I wasn’t sure where we were going, but I liked the trip. I also liked that you led me into a circle which held a marvelous clearing where I could see how truth and dare intersect in my life.

My favorite line in this post, and there were many, is when you said this: “Truth, because of its power and organic nature, enables us to dare. When we find truth, we gain the courage, the strength, the chutzpah to dare. And by the same token, when we opt to dare, we do so armed with the truth.

I don’t go on Twitter very often anymore, but I will tweet this post:~)


4 Patty - Why Not Start Now? January 21, 2010 at 12:49 pm

Fascinating, Belinda. I’ve never played truth or dare. I had to go look it up since I only vaguely remembered what it was. I suppose the game itself is all about risk: is it riskier to tell the truth or take a chance on doing something unknown? And yes, I can see how you’d almost always opt to dare, since truth is so slippery (btw, love the Gide quote). I guess for me, when I apply this to life, truth helps me to dare only so much as I construct it in that moment. Because in the next moment, truth may have an altogether different meaning. Thanks for making me think about this. And yes, I will play your game. But I’m wondering, what does this altered online reality do to truth?


5 Steven Aitchison January 21, 2010 at 1:13 pm

Hi Belinda. I secretly used to love this game when it came up as it usually always involved kissing a girl (that was when I was younger, much younger). I liked your analogy of life being a game of truth or dare and I loved that you alluded to the fact that truth and dare are inextricably linked, it’s a matter of what one to start with first: truth or dare 🙂


6 Tess The Bold Life January 22, 2010 at 9:00 am

I never played the game either. Wow what are we all afraid of, I think I’ll dare to say if you pose the question I’ll play. Yikes! If I don’t how can I stand behind the name of my blog!


7 Jeanne January 22, 2010 at 9:18 pm

Oh boy, Belinda, what a challenge! I’m in, if you do it.

That being said, I’ve always been a private person and never played the game for that very reason. That is, I’ve been private until I started blogging! Who knew that THIS is where I open up so easily, and what the heck is that all about? I dunno, but it’s fun.

As for truth, someone said to me “yes, there is such a thing as absolute truth, it’s just different for everyone.” OK, I haven’t wrapped my head around that just yet. . .


8 ayo January 23, 2010 at 2:55 pm

hi belinda,
bring it on!!!
i’m up for your questions because i love the game. As i read this post, my mind wandered away temporarily from the context of the text for a few minutes lol!!! to my younger days. anyway, i totally agree with the concept of life being like a game of truth or dare


9 Kristen @ Motherese January 24, 2010 at 6:42 am

What a thoughtful post. For me, the biggest dare of all is to look internally with enough perspective and honesty to see the truth about myself.

I love the distinction you draw between facts and truth. I think that I am pretty good about admitting to the latter, so if the game allowed me to reveal facts, I’d be okay. I’d be more nervous for sure if I had to share truths about myself – perhaps because I’m just beginning to learn them.


10 Davina January 24, 2010 at 11:41 am

I have never played truth or dare. My sisters used to dare one another to do things, though I can’t remember even one of those dares. I just hear echos of “I dare ya.” 🙂 Truth is complex I think. As I was reading your post I found myself thinking that it is multifaceted; you can look at it from different angles; it has many parts. Then I found myself likening it to a rainbow.


11 BK January 25, 2010 at 3:26 am

Truth or Dare? That is a fun game that I tried before. I think it’ll be fun to have something like this in your blog. I will look forward to it. 🙂


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